How to Instantly Improve Your Confidence

Confidence plays a huge part in so many areas of our lives. Why is it that some people seem to naturally act and feel more confident, whilst others seem to struggle? On the other hand, when you are confident you feel happier, inspire confidence in others and are generally more successful.

Definition of Self-Confidence

Everyone lacks confidence from time to time so what does confidence actually mean. Here’s the definition from the Oxford dictionary.

Self-confidence – A feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgement.

Confidence varies between individuals and is something that I personally have had to work on.  Identifying the reason for lack of confidence can help you not only understand it but it will also help you improve it.

Causes of Low Confidence

There are many causes of low confidence.  Some are situational and others are more a feeling that impacts most of what you do.

Here are just a few:

  • Negative self-talk
  • Over controlling partner or spouse
  • Inability to get clients and sales
  • Spending time around people who constantly put you down
  • Previous negative experiences
  • Fear of presentations
  • Conditioning from your past

All of these causes lead to forming certain beliefs you hold about yourself.  It is these beliefs (true or false) that will continue to hold you back until they are addressed.

For me, having health problems is probably what has had the biggest impact on my self-confidence.  Struggling with chronic pain and depression as a teenager meant that I was not able to socialise very much with my friends.  The invitations to go out grew less and I became to feel quite isolated.   For a long time I felt a failure and it’s only now after working on my own confidence that I truly feel good about who I am and what I can offer the world.

 

Your story will be different, but if I can become more confident so can you.

Are you ready to take action and be a more successful, confident and happy person?

It all starts with self-awareness. Awareness brings understanding. With new understanding you will start to see the world differently and your behaviour will change.

Take a moment to really think about the following questions:

  • Do you find it hard making new friends?
  • Are you always doing what’s expected of you, not what you really want to do?
  • Do you find it difficult accepting compliments?
  • Do you find it hard making decisions?
  • Do certain situations make you feel on edge?
  • Do you find it hard to recognise your good qualities?

If you answered yes to any of these questions then you could probably benefit from a confidence boost.

Confidence Boosting Tips

Here are some quick things you can do today that will start to boost your confidence.

Be congruent

Practice showing the world the real you, not who you think they want to see. You will soon find that the friends that matter will stick around.  When you start making decisions and acting in a way that’s congruent making decisions will become easier. Your dreams will become real and your purpose will become clearer.

Make a list of all your achievements and best qualities

Don’t worry about being modest.  This is the time to be your own best friend. You don’t have to show it to anyone. If you find this difficult ask a trusted friend what your best qualities are.

Body language

Your physiology affects your emotional state. Standing up tall with your head held high really can make a difference.  This is especially important if you’re lacking the confidence to deliver presentations.  You’ll be surprised just how much a difference this can make.

Essential oils

I’m a big fan of essential oils for general health and well-being. Did you know there are specific oils and blends that are excellent for boosting confidence eg. Believe and Valor.

Start a business or find a purpose

One thing that has really boosted my confidence is having my own business.  When you are getting paid for something you’ve made or a service you deliver you will start to see the value you offer to the world.

A word of caution though; you don’t want to fall into the trap of needing validation from others either financially or emotionally. Just helping other people also has a way of making you feel good.  You don’t have to have a full time business. It can be just something that earns you a bit of extra money while you are working or bringing up a family.

Seek professional help

You don’t have to do it alone. There are lots of coaches and counsellors that have both the qualifications and experience to help you. You just have to be willing to accept it.

If you’re fed up trying to do it alone you can book a coaching session with me.

Happiness is when what you do, what you think and how you feel are in complete harmony.

Are you lacking in confidence, or do you have any confidence boosting tips of your own you’d like to share? Leave me a comment below and let me know.

If you would prefer to chat privately or would like to know how coaching could help send me a message. I’d love to hear from you.

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Comments

  1. Funny thing for me is that although I started my business in the hope to find more purpose in my life, my business didn’t really start until I’d defined my purpose. There’s nothing more powerful that having a cause or purpose to drive you.

    1. Absolutely Clive, finding your purpose can be journey in itself. It can evolve and grow as you do.

      Once you found it though it’s an incredibly powerful motivator.

  2. Tanya

    I can relate to negative self talk. It’s so much easier to criticise ourselves than realising our value!

    1. It certainly can be be Tanya. One thing that might help is treating yourself like your own best friend and treat yourself with the same level of kindness and respect.

  3. Kas

    Thanks for sharing this Julie I really enjoyed reading it.

    Low self esteem and confidence is a huge issue.

    Thank you

    1. Thanks Kas, I’m glad you enjoyed reading.The sad thing is Low self-esteem is such a common issue and one that is often put up with for a long time before someone does anything about it.

  4. Julie,

    I loved the Pdf and appreciate your ” Story’ and how you became such as good coach and person. Thank You.

    Lori English

    1. Hey Lori,
      Thank you so much for your comment, I’m really glad you loved my eBook. Whilst my ‘story’ hasn’t always been easy I believe it’s definitely made me who I am today.

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